23 Body Language Tricks That Make You Instantly Likeable

The page says people send signals all day through eye contact, handshake, posture, face, and movement. It presents body language as a way to make others like you more or at least give you the benefit of the doubt, while stressing that the intent should be good.

Reading notes

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• Influencing is described as changing someone’s behavior or mind, while manipulation is intentional influencing
• The page says manipulation is not bad by itself; bad intentions and lying are the problem
• It gives one example of harmful manipulation and one example of friendly manipulation that avoids a fight
• It asks the reader to use the tricks with good intentions
• The first section links attitude and body language and says these attitudes shape how people move and are perceived
• It says feeling secure and projecting confidence matters, and suggests removing discomforts and training yourself to feel secure
• It recommends treating everyone as a friend and giving people respect unless they prove otherwise
• It says strangers should get the benefit of the doubt and should not be judged only by appearance
• It urges the reader to think about what they can do for other people instead of what others can do for them
• The posture section says posture affects both others’ judgments and your own self-perception
• It recommends standing and sitting straight while staying relaxed, with the feet about hip width apart and some tension in the core
• When entering a room, it advises smiling, greeting the crowd indirectly, making eye contact, and taking time
• It suggests waving to imaginary friends to signal that you know people and to feel more confident
• The handshake section says to use a firm but gentle handshake, make eye contact, and smile during the shake
• The positioning section says to keep an open stance, angle your body toward the person, and avoid leaning on objects when possible
• The face section says a neutral face should look relaxed or happy, and eye contact should not be broken too quickly
• It explains smiling as letting a happy feeling show on the face
• The final section recommends mirroring another person’s posture and movements without making it obvious